Believe in what is good for self
"It is easy to believe, easy to disbelieve. What is hard is to not believe in his unbelief"
Have you a model? Someone or something that inspires you when you're stuck in a deadlock, someone who knows exactly what do you aspire?
My grandfather was one of my models. He was a man with simple desires, gestures and generous soul in peace. He died at 96 years with a smile, almost with humor. When I looked prey to my torment, he struck me with her "because you have no faith!". He spoke of his own ... it resonated in me but it fascinated me. His faith was evident calm, she did not discuss, she was there, strong and lightweight. I always know there was something extremely powerful in the belief with sincerity, that could see the light in the darkness of our grief.
Of course, my grandfather thought faith in God. I only kept the faith, energy that moves in one direction, inexorably, like a thick carpet which runs to lead us where we want. I learned from experience that there are rugs in which we take the foot and others on which we slip face in the wind. When my beliefs are contrary to my goals is as if the carpet turned into mountains. They are obstacles that stand between me and what I intended. They can be called limiting beliefs. On the other hand, when my beliefs are congruent with my desires, they are in the same direction, then they open for me the way, give me wings and create positive dynamics, synchronicities.
Beliefs are thoughts about ourselves, others and our environment. They become limiting beliefs when it reduces the changes we want to undertake. For example, I want to stop smoking but continue to believe that I in no danger, my skin, my lungs do not risk anything. In this case, my motivation to change will not be supported by my belief and it will therefore be small and not very supportive to my approach. I think this is because in my family everybody smokes and nobody ever got sick - which means I'm genetically-protected and my belief is relatively toxic, is my belief based on a cognitive dissonance (ie "I do not know and I prefer to think otherwise) and it would be useful to change belief.
Synchronicity is the idea (even a belief, then!) until we know where we want to go and we have the appropriate beliefs, we attract events that enhance the performance considered (good people, good areas, good applications). Suppose this time I want to do a radio show that I believe sincerely and objectively the qualities I have, I'll probably be more careful opportunities that could lead me to this project, I'll talk about it, take action relevant to this expectation and approach it more closely. It is a belief caregiver.
However, changing beliefs is difficult. Our beliefs come from our childhood, speeches that were made about us, the place we were assigned. Since we have become great people, it behooves us to take control of our destiny and take stock of what we inherited.
Little exercise change a limiting belief
1) Identify the most debilitating limiting beliefs
Take for example the following beliefs:
"When I say no to someone in my life, I suggest I am incompetent "then ask yourself the following questions:
- What is the important criterion for me behind this belief?
Sample response:" To be competent in my field of expertise "
2) To change the belief, it must act consistently with the criteria that is important to you.
What would a person skilled in the situations that interest you? Before giving its approval, it would undoubtedly questions (what, when, how, what results are expected ...) and ask for a slight moment of reflection.
Have fun!
