Seduction and you, how it is going on?
I present to you the John Travolta avian advised the seducer, the dancer uninhibited and focused, I have named: the satin bowerbird. For him not to existential questions. He wants to overthrow the beautiful, fast but with minimal e decorum anyway. So share! It manufactures a dance floor with twigs and decorates with blue items of all kinds. When a curious approaching, he rushed on his sward and began to whistle, hopping and inflate the wings. Is not great?
We are not birds but the process is not so remote. In our report to the seduction we do have a goal (getting a favor), a strategy (more or less creative, sophisticated and more or less operative), means (speech, accessories). What sets us apart is the wide range of choices for each of these elements. This is also what makes our relationship so complicated and ambiguous (Is he / she dredge? Veut-il/elle What? How far is he / she able to go?).
If I sincerely ask myself the question "who would seduce you?", My first impulse is to say "myself" but I soon realized that this is a defense. First of all I want to win another one who can send me a picture of myself that I can take one and let me go further in exploring the world ie the "deployment of self" (personal, professional, material, family, love ...). is still terrible to confess that the other is a way to return to home . The sticking point with others is that if we want to be loved (e) is not necessarily mate (which then becomes a means). There are so many things to do with the other it would be frustrating (but not unnecessary) to limit our expectations to faint.
As possible "Whom do you seduce?", There is a woman or man then naturally degraded mode that has the power to change something in life note by indirect means ( Profile of my position, salary, comfort, comfort, pleasure ...). Everyone has different priorities. What are yours? What do you get in your efforts to seduce? Are you even aware (e) to enable them? We have seen with fun, the birds sing and parade order to stage his body (for us the clothes, silhouette, ...), the approach to warm the senses (perfumes, skin visible ...), He also uses accessories (jewelry, cars, objects), it poetizes before melee (speeches, humor, games). What are you doing? Do you dive?
If we agree that we want to seduce the man or woman could bring us "good, the more" in one area of our lives that we want to win and what is the strategy works?
According to evolutionary psychology and somewhat caricatured, in the context of a long term relationship, man and woman looking for someone capable of both love them, they be faithful, stable and capable of emotions equipped a pleasant character (Christmas every day !!!). By cons, if man is still fascinated by the beauty, youth and even virginity (Women-hourglass), the more pragmatic woman committed to social status (man-portfolio), the ability to work (health, body shape) and the Financial Perspective (feeding the family and pay for the education of children, incidentally afford the best hairdresser).
Researchers working hard on "seduction" by frequenting nightclubs teach us that there is a Top 5 behaviors that score:
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Touching or rather touch : you 65% more chance of getting what you want
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S e in the right place ie is in a place emotionally charged (florist, amusement park, risk sports ...)
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Wearing red -
reproduce the gestures, the words of his interlocutor
- Talking
Love Can we love someone who falls so easily into the traps? Yes, because we're big lazy, always tempted by saving energy, far too pleased with this new power, which is almost magical turn their eyes towards us with as much fluidity. Recognized (e) in our individuality, we radiate. Love calls love.
